I want to introduce myself as a Psychotherapist referring precisely to the model I use to counsel, wishing it is useful to give you a general and clear idea about what is Psychotherapy and be able to provide you with knowledge about the contributions it can offer and the way it works. On the other hand, explain the reasons why it is important to receive psychotherapy at certain times, even though you do not consider it necessary.
I will begin by talking about the primary objective of a Humanistic Psychotherapy. Its main purpose is to favor the self-realization of the person who comes to consultation, in such a way that, finding by itself and under the guidance of the therapist, the way to achieve greater satisfaction according to their own nature, requirements and expectations in certain situations and, in general, in their current life situation. I will explain it in a more detailed way.
This process is developed on certain bases: Respect for the values of the person, their history, their needs, their own experiences, desires, interests, etc., for which, the expert assumes a collaborative role so that, with their participation can bring clarity or “light”, in those aspects that require it for the benefit of a constructive and expanded vision, and a development of the potential of the person to be discovered.
Generally, we as humans tend to know “rationally”–what is convenient to do in the situation that we are facing, while, emotionally, we live it in another way. It is important to clarify ourselves. If to this, we add that many times in practice, we manifest with a different attitude to what we think and feel, it turns out that we do not satisfy our needs as we expected.
Humanistic Therapy seeks to unify the different aspects of the person, since the conditions in which a circumstance occurs can be determinant for the emergence of non-functional or voluntary emotions based on a limited interpretation. Only by integrating them consciously, we can make use of them, in an assertive way.
Although we have identified to some extent, what we think, feel and want, the reality is that we have unlinked (or disjointed) these essential functions and therefore, we cannot take full advantage of them, in a complementary way. This indeed is the reason why it is often difficult to understand ourselves in a clear and definite way and, instead of this, we are out of the possibility to achieve the desired results. In effect, this confusion can tarnish our decision-making so that it can be satisfying and consistent with ourselves and with the circumstances. Also, if we add to this the challenge and the need to nurture our interpersonal relationships in a healthy way, or to face difficult circumstances in which each person brings their emotional burden, their needs and their interpretations of the situation, then, yes, we are in a dilemma! Moreover, to move towards a constructive development, we will first have to know what we need.
On the other hand, this is why communication often becomes dysfunctional in relationships, both intrapersonal (with oneself), and interpersonally (with others). For instance, if I do not understand myself, how can I then convey to others clearly what I want or need? Alternatively, understand my priorities and those of other people, such as my partner, my children or close relatives? Clarifying and unifying us is extremely important for our fulfillment as people in all aspects, and that is why psychotherapy is very beneficial for all people.
The Gestalt Psychotherapy belongs to the Humanistic Psychology, which integrates the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual part (without being religious). Gestalt Therapy, in addition to seeking to integrate the person holistically– that is when they are disjointed in thoughts and emotions. Considering the person as a whole gives them the space to experience new possibilities to gain learning and an expanded awareness about themselves, as well as emotional healing.
Psychotherapists has the necessary training to guide clients who seek advice about how to face situations and reach practical solutions in less time and above all, to achieve clarity needed based on self-knowledge, in such manner that the client can increase their resources to work on their own functionally and healthily if they encounter new challenges or difficult circumstances. It is a Psychotherapy that is carried out with great warmth and human quality, empathy, sensitivity and respect for the individuality of each person. Psychotherapists try to ‘find’ characteristics in the client: essential aspects like unconscious factors, such as learned patterns of thought and behavior, which they are not aware of; such as not knowing how to fulfil their emotional needs, love themselves, etc.
If a therapeutic process scares you because you are concerned that you are going to be judged, diagnosed, and be told what you should do, then you have the wrong idea. The humanist therapist provides you with the necessary clarity towards what you cannot glimpse for yourself because you are focused on a particular perspective or dynamics – that, although it is not giving you the results according to what you want or you need you are immersed in it. And although you need to change it, you cannot do so or do not know how to achieve it. A therapeutic process will help you to reaffirming, strength and expand your personal and emotional growth.
In summary, the Humanistic Therapist represents guidance to see new alternatives to act, face or resolve, according to what you want and need. And as a result, you will achieve that personal evolution in favor of your integral well-being, in support of more functional relationships, including your relationships: intrapersonal (with yourself) and interpersonal (with others).
HOW DOES THE HUMANISTIC THERAPIST GUIDES YOU?
First of all, the Humanistic Therapist respects and values your personality and everything you are. It is through a genuine empathy that welcomes you in an environment of trust and security—listening and guiding you in favor of your ‘realization’ referring to your fixed thought patterns, beliefs, what you feel, imagine, desire and need.
It opens the possibility that you become aware of important aspects that may favor your psychological-emotional, physical, and even spiritual well-being. It favors you to resolve issues that are currently holding you back or causing stagnation in some way:
– Healing past experiences or emotional situations
– The therapist helps you to connect with those internal resources with which you can develop new alternatives, promote a positive evolution in terms of self-esteem and well-being by expanding your possibilities and current resources that will serve you in the future when you encounter new circumstances.
– Treat personal matters always according to your needs and your values
– It allows you to experience in a safe and reliable space new ways of relating to yourself and your environment, resulting in more functional and satisfying interactions.
Carl Rogers explains that when you accept yourself, just as you are, then you evolve. And to reach this acceptance, self-knowledge is the first indispensable way that brings self-understanding. The main objective of this humanistic therapy is to promote this change. The humanist line is a therapy that flows harmoniously, in which one can feel entirely accepted, understood and respected.
Written By: CLAUDIA CAMPOS RANGEL
Psychologist and Psychotherapist Gestalt Humanist